“We’re not having bridesmaids or groomsmen”.
It’s a decision that’s becoming increasingly common. Where once upon a time, it was considered highly unusual to stand at an altar without an equal number of close friends or family by you and your partner’s sides, now it’s a decision that is very consciously made – and often the decision is to go without.
It deserves a mention before we go on that those couples that do choose to have a wedding party are approaching their party with more of an open mind than ever before. Couples don’t need to have even numbers of people supporting them. And those people shouldn’t just be of the same gender too – we’re delighted to witness more and more bridesmen, groomsmaids and non-identifying ‘party people’ represented at weddings in this modern age.
But back to the trend of going it alone. We’ve pulled together nine reasons why couples are choosing to not have a wedding party.
Why engaged couples are choosing not to have bridesmaids or groomsmen (or any combo there-within) for their wedding
1. Embracing Individuality
One reason why couples are choosing not to have bridesmaids and groomsmen (and other combos) is that they want to embrace their individuality. They believe that a wedding should be a celebration of the couple and their unique relationship, rather than conforming to traditional roles and expectations. Opting out of having a wedding party is one way that couples can personalise their wedding day and make it more meaningful to them.
2. Simplifying the Planning Process
It has to be said, not having a wedding party can simplify the planning process. It means no coordinating outfits, hair, makeup, and other details – things that can be stressful and time-consuming, especially if members of the wedding party are located in different cities or countries. By not having a wedding party, couples can focus on what’s important to them without getting bogged down in the details.
3. Saving Money
Not having a wedding party can save couples a significant amount of cash on gifts, flowers, and other expenses. Wedding party members are typically given gifts as a thank you for their involvement in the wedding, and these gifts can add up quickly. Additionally, couples usually provide bouquets, boutonnieres, and other arrangements for their wedding party, which can be a significant expense.
And it’s not just saving money for the couple: some couples are also be taking into account the financial situation and pressures on their friends and family. Being a member of a wedding party often comes with considerable expense (and don’t get us wrong – most of the time your friends and family are only too happy to invest into your day). For some couples, choosing not to have a wedding party is a conscious decision to avoid putting loved ones in a tricky financial position.
4. Reducing Drama and Conflicts
Another benefit of not having a wedding party is that it can reduce drama and potential conflicts that can arise when dealing with a large group of people. Choosing bridesmaid/mens and groomsmen/women can be a tricky process, and it’s not uncommon for disagreements or hurt feelings to arise if someone is left out or not chosen for a particular role. By avoiding a wedding party altogether, couples can skip these potential conflicts and focus on enjoying their special day.
5. Smaller Wedding
Hosting smaller or ‘micro’ wedding is becoming increasingly popular, and some couples feel that having a wedding party is unnecessary when they’re having a more intimate celebration. By not having a wedding party, couples can focus on spending time with their guests and creating a more relaxed and personal atmosphere.
6. No Close Friends or Family
Sometimes, couples don’t have close friends or family members who they feel comfortable asking to be part of their wedding party. This can be a tough decision to make, but it’s important for couples to remember that the wedding is ultimately about them and their commitment to each other, regardless of who is standing by their side.
For some couples, having a wedding party reinforces traditional gender roles, and they prefer to have a more egalitarian wedding where everyone is treated equally. By not having a wedding party, the couple can create a more inclusive environment that reflects their values and beliefs.
8. Focus on the Couple
Without the distraction of a wedding party, the focus can be solely on the couple and their relationship. While this might sound narcissistic, couples will cite this reason not out of ego, rather simply because they just want to soak up each other on the day without feeling the pressure of keeping other people happy out of traditions-sake.
9. Destination Weddings
For couples who are having a destination wedding, it may not be practical or affordable to have a large wedding party travel with them. In these cases, couples may choose to focus on enjoying their wedding with their closest family and friends without the formality of a wedding party.
Ultimately, the decision to have or not have a wedding party is a personal one, and each couple should do what feels right for them. Whether they choose to have a traditional bridal party or not, the most important thing is that the wedding reflects the couple’s unique love story and celebrates their commitment to each other.