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How to tactfully ask for money as a wedding gift

asking for wedding money

Image by CJ Williams Photography


Ewww money. It can feel so awkward asking for it at the best of times, let alone from the people who are nearest and dearest to you.

Asking for cash as a wedding gift can feel gross. We think it stems from the fact that you don’t want to just presume that people are keen to give you something because you’re getting married, whether that be money or a gift. It can feel obnoxious and self-entitled. We get it.

And it doesn’t help that when you try and search online for nice ways of wording a money-gift on your invitation, a whole bunch of frankly, quite disgusting rhymes will appear. Take this one, for example.

To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all of that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

Fill it with paper? Gold is our favourite? Just, fuck. These kind of ditties have the unfortunate effect of further enhancing the panic and discomfort you feel about asking for cash. At least they did for us.

So, how do we resolve this? Firstly, we need to get something straight.

The majority, if not all, of your guests want to give you a gift. It’s a longstanding tradition. And while we’re all about foregoing tradition when it comes to weddings, this one is probably sticking around.

We say this with the hope that it helps you feel a bit more relaxed about the whole gift-receiving situation in general.

Now, back to resolving the issue of asking for money for your wedding day. Here’s what we’d suggest.

Include a short, tasteful message with your invite. Leave the rhymes alone and just roll with something heartfelt and simple. For example,

Your presence at our wedding is honestly the best present we could ask for. If you did wish to contribute to our honeymoon, we’ll have a wishing well there on the day. Love and thanks.


Keep things uncomplicated. Also, keep in mind that in this day and age, people generally expect to give a cash gift, so don’t stress.


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17th May, 2016

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  1. nice work guys
    sure hate those rhymes

  2. That’s the best way to ask I’ve seen! Thanks so much.

  3. WOW. i was searching for this all over the web for hours. this is the best advice and best way to put it. THANK YOU.

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